(Since writing this blog I have amended my son's and his girlfriend's name to protect his ID)
At the beginning is always a good starting point...But where is the beginning?
21yrs ago or 1yr ago?
Well here goes...
21 yrs ago.
I was about to give birth to my first much wanted child. Secretly I hoped for a little girl but as long as the baby was healthy that's all that mattered.
New yrs eve and my proudest moment, I became a mummy to Rachel a 7lb 3oz healthy little girl.
1yr ago.
'I have something to tell you mum, please sit down, Will you always love me, I need to know that you will love me'?
I never expected the life changing news that Rach was about to tell me.
'I want to be a man, I have felt like this for years, I have Gender Dysphoria'.
Having read your sons blog about his journey it'll be interesting to see things from a mums perspective.
ReplyDeletePeace
El
Hi El,
ReplyDeleteThanks for your post.
I hope it helps others to understand,
Take care, Andrea
Hi Andrea, thanks for writing this it's really great to have a glimpse of what is happening in my mum's head.
ReplyDeletei guess i want to ask you, as someone who is three months into HRT, if there's anything i can do or say that will help her realise that i'm doing this and that i am fine. (i don't live at home so we don't see each other very much, she knew i was in the process two years ago, and we argued about it. i think she was hoping it would go away and never took it in really, i let it stay buried, for her at least)
also, i wondered, as a stylistic choice, why you write Will's "he's" as Rach's "she's"? i'm not trying to be rude, i just wonder how you feel about writing him as Will, is all
thank you (and happy holidays!) xx
ps: i couldn't find the button to message you so i wrote it here, you can delete it afterwards, sorry
Hi Celeste,
ReplyDeleteDifficult question really, I never once thought about not suporting Rach through this, its been a tremendous journey for the two of us, as you read my blog you will see.I tried to push it under the carpet too, I was in denial. All I can say is direct your mum to my blog and also Rach's. Rach's blog was the best thing that I could have read, it gave me a broader understanding of what she was going through, and as a parent you want to be there for your child!
As for writing the name, at the moment its just a name, I don't assocoiate Will with Rach, this is the biggest hurdle I have yet to jump over, I will do it and be comfortable n calling her Will.
My mind is very confused as you kids don't come with a text book. ha ha!
If I can be of any help to your mum I would love to help.
All the best.
xx