Had quite a week, and it's not just W to concern me at the moment!
Matt had an incident involving his car, basically he got run off the road and then some scum bag stole his alloy wheels whilst he had to leave it on the roadside as he was unable to drive it! Was so gutted for him, it's such a horrible feeling when somebody does something across your child, he has worked his butt off for this car, it's his pride and joy. It's great to see how close Matt and W are, W is so protective of him, so happy as they have not lived together for 8 years but obviously that has had no lasting effect on their relationship.
All peaceful at the moment except for one issue which we are struggling to sort out. W was told when he should have the injections, ie 1 to start, another at 6 weeks and then 3 months later, then every 3 months. On the forums and guys he has spoken to have said that they had their 3rd one at 6 weeks, been in touch with Charing Cross and they have agreed he requires a 3rd at 6 weeks not 12 weeks. Now we are waiting for written confirmation so we can tell the Dr. Hope they hurry up 6 weeks flies by.
W's voice is very deep now, he is passing as a male totally! On the phone to my sister the other evening and she thought I had a secret bloke in with me as she could hear W in the background.
Sunday, 26 February 2012
Friday, 17 February 2012
(42) Another message of support.
This is the message that W had received via his blog, I thought I should share it...
I sat and read your mums blog in one sitting with tears in my eyes and an ache in my heart. I hope you are aware how lucky you are to have such a wonderful loving supportive mum. I hope you tell her everyday that you love her and how much you appreciate her. And tell her from me if she ever considers adoption can I be first on the list !!
At times when I reflect over the last year, I have not felt like the supportive mum that people say I am.
I re read a blog entry and think was that really me? How hurtful was I?
Emotions hey! As for support we have both needed each other in different ways, we've come through it and will carry on battling with whatever is thrown our way!
At times when I reflect over the last year, I have not felt like the supportive mum that people say I am.
I re read a blog entry and think was that really me? How hurtful was I?
Emotions hey! As for support we have both needed each other in different ways, we've come through it and will carry on battling with whatever is thrown our way!
Sunday, 12 February 2012
Saturday, 11 February 2012
(41) Passing as male 100%
All going quite smoothly. It's beginning to feel the norm now. W very comfortable with the voice and stubble.
Saw Julia last week the school psychologist, not spoken to her for a few months in confidence, not had the opportunity too to be honest, it's just been a quick 'how are things'. Had a lovely chat and updated her on the progress, explained how I felt regards the facial hair, she suggested I buy a razor and shaving gel and leave them in the bathroom, good idea but not done it yet! Julia also impressed with my attitude and said I spoke about W with enthusiasm and pride.
W came into school a few days ago to cover some lessons for me. I felt this was a good opportunity for the staff to meet W as W now, as I have told a few more of my colleagues about him, I have worked with most of these colleagues for the biggest part of W's lifetime so they have seen him grow up.
I was a little nervous as my older pupils know I have a boy and girl. I decided with W that I would introduce him as a student as I would not be around so him calling me mum in ear shot was not a problem. All of my students accepted him as W, there were no comments made about him and a couple of the girls fancied him, they asked when he was coming in again!!
Matt spoke to me on the phone a couple of days ago and referred to him as W, that's a first so all going good in W's favour, I have dropped the female pronouns now and am trying my hardest with that, called him W a few times too.
W had a lovely email regarding my blog, the trans man was full of praise for me and told W he was very lucky having me as his mum, he told W he should show his appreciation all the time and tell me loves me every day, also he wants me to adopt him...Waiting for W to forward it to me so I can post it here.
Matt had more blood tests waiting for the results of those.
Had a brilliant evening, Matt introduced me to his lovely girlfriend in the afternoon and she came for tea, well a take away, was great to have them all around the table, we had some laughs and Matt suffered embarrassing tales off W, happy times.
One happy, proud mummy, got two, very happy gorgeous sons.
Saw Julia last week the school psychologist, not spoken to her for a few months in confidence, not had the opportunity too to be honest, it's just been a quick 'how are things'. Had a lovely chat and updated her on the progress, explained how I felt regards the facial hair, she suggested I buy a razor and shaving gel and leave them in the bathroom, good idea but not done it yet! Julia also impressed with my attitude and said I spoke about W with enthusiasm and pride.
W came into school a few days ago to cover some lessons for me. I felt this was a good opportunity for the staff to meet W as W now, as I have told a few more of my colleagues about him, I have worked with most of these colleagues for the biggest part of W's lifetime so they have seen him grow up.
I was a little nervous as my older pupils know I have a boy and girl. I decided with W that I would introduce him as a student as I would not be around so him calling me mum in ear shot was not a problem. All of my students accepted him as W, there were no comments made about him and a couple of the girls fancied him, they asked when he was coming in again!!
Matt spoke to me on the phone a couple of days ago and referred to him as W, that's a first so all going good in W's favour, I have dropped the female pronouns now and am trying my hardest with that, called him W a few times too.
W had a lovely email regarding my blog, the trans man was full of praise for me and told W he was very lucky having me as his mum, he told W he should show his appreciation all the time and tell me loves me every day, also he wants me to adopt him...Waiting for W to forward it to me so I can post it here.
Matt had more blood tests waiting for the results of those.
Had a brilliant evening, Matt introduced me to his lovely girlfriend in the afternoon and she came for tea, well a take away, was great to have them all around the table, we had some laughs and Matt suffered embarrassing tales off W, happy times.
One happy, proud mummy, got two, very happy gorgeous sons.
Wednesday, 1 February 2012
(40) 6 weeks on...
Can't believe it has been 6 weeks since that 1st hormone injection!
W went for his 2nd jab, next one in 3months and then every 3months for life.
There has been quite a noticeable change with W. These changes have happened much more quickly than I imagined, unsure how to express my feelings. In one way I'm glad these changes are happening quickly at least it's not going to be a long drawn out process.
W's voice has gone deeper, people are noticing and he is no longer recognised if he answers the telephone. He had a call off his grandad at the weekend and he had to explain it was 'Rach' as that is how he is still known to his grandad, not sure if he can get away with that for much longer!
Facial hair is another change which I never thought would happen so quick, this is my biggest hurdle. I felt gutted when I saw the pic of his chin complete with stubble patches on his blog, I did spill a few tears... Just got to get on with it.
W still not had any contact with his dad. Matt told me that dad is not happy about the name change as he had found out through a local gossip friend of his who had seen it via facebook, I don't believe that, as our facebook accounts are very secure and the local gossiper has no access to either of our facebook accounts. Been totally honest I don't care anymore, we are both getting through this without him, all that he does is put a downer on the whole thing. We both have a good network of family and friends who offer us support.
Matt not well at the mo, he had blood tests yesterday. He has lost a lot of weight and looks very tired. Sure he will be ok, makes a change to have him to worry about.
W went for his 2nd jab, next one in 3months and then every 3months for life.
There has been quite a noticeable change with W. These changes have happened much more quickly than I imagined, unsure how to express my feelings. In one way I'm glad these changes are happening quickly at least it's not going to be a long drawn out process.
W's voice has gone deeper, people are noticing and he is no longer recognised if he answers the telephone. He had a call off his grandad at the weekend and he had to explain it was 'Rach' as that is how he is still known to his grandad, not sure if he can get away with that for much longer!
Facial hair is another change which I never thought would happen so quick, this is my biggest hurdle. I felt gutted when I saw the pic of his chin complete with stubble patches on his blog, I did spill a few tears... Just got to get on with it.
W still not had any contact with his dad. Matt told me that dad is not happy about the name change as he had found out through a local gossip friend of his who had seen it via facebook, I don't believe that, as our facebook accounts are very secure and the local gossiper has no access to either of our facebook accounts. Been totally honest I don't care anymore, we are both getting through this without him, all that he does is put a downer on the whole thing. We both have a good network of family and friends who offer us support.
Matt not well at the mo, he had blood tests yesterday. He has lost a lot of weight and looks very tired. Sure he will be ok, makes a change to have him to worry about.
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